An Open Letter From A Newly Wedded Couple To Future Wedding Guests, Part 2

In Part 1 of this article, Peiru gave us tips for how we should behave as guests when we attend a wedding. Read on to find out more!

 


3. Thou Shalt RSVP To My Wedding Invitation

During my wedding preparation, I don’t know what was more stressful – finding my dream wedding gown or counting the number of people attending my wedding. When my married friends told me that it was completely stressful when you have no idea how many people are attending your wedding, I didn’t really get it and thought it wasn’t much of a big deal. Guess who had the last laugh?

If you don’t already know (and don’t laugh this off), it is of great importance to know how many people are attending your wedding. Why? Your response has a great impact on the seating arrangements. By indicating your attendance, I will be able to allocate your seat and place you with people who you might feel more comfortable with. I might even give you a plus-one if you happen to not have a friend at my wedding.

If you don’t RSVP (or choose not to confirm with me despite the numerous calls I make), then it becomes very hard for me to arrange the seating. If I were to assume that you were coming, then I might run the risk of wasting a seat if you chose to not attend my wedding. Likewise, if I were to assume that you weren’t coming, then what am I supposed to do if you decide to come to the wedding? I can’t possibly ask you to go home just because you didn’t RSVP, right?

Also, it can be very stressful when people back out of the wedding at the very last minute. If you have a legitimate reason why you are unable to attend the wedding, then do update us as soon as possible. Otherwise, there will be one more wasted seat and the pinch is real.

Bottom line: Just RSVP! It doesn’t take immense effort to respond to an invite, right?

4. Thou Shalt Not Make A Huge Scene At The Wedding

Wine and beer is part and parcel of any wedding, and too much of it can ruin the big day. I have attended a few weddings, which came with drunken uncles who kept drinking alcohol despite their drunken stupor. It was rowdy and broke the momentum of the wedding, such as the speech from the couples or when the performers were trying their best to entertain everybody at the wedding.

It is completely disrespectful to do so, because nobody enjoys noise unless they have paid for it. What’s more, the limelight is stolen from the couple, which isn’t right because the full attention of the wedding guests only belongs to the couple!

Bottom line: Bottoms up, but please restrict the drinking if your threshold isn’t good! If you find yourself feeling tipsy, put that glass of wine down, and throw ice-cold water on your face (we are kidding).

Of course, there might be numerous wedding stories out there that I have yet to go through or witness myself. If you have any interesting wedding stories, please do share with us!

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Peiru Teo

A valedictorian with a degree in Mechanical Engineering, as well as the Chartered Financial Analyst title, Peiru Teo started her corporate career as a Management Associate in Citi, followed by a private equity fund, managing projects of more than S$4 billion. 

Since venturing into entrepreneurship, she has grown her wedding services company La Belle Couture to being the market leader in the industry over the last 5 years. "La Belle Couture" is also selected by renowned hotels like Marina Bay Sands and Shangri-La for wedding partnerships.

She has been featured in magazines and on the radio for advising couples on their wedding planning. Peiru is the industry’s go to person for marketing strategies and wedding event management, and has worked on more than 100 wedding events. She also speaks at events to educate wedding couples on wedding planning and bridal gown selection.

This post was first published on La Belle Couture blog and has been reposted on Executive Lifestyle with the permission of the author. Images from La Belle Couture
Edited by Nedda Chaplin


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